Thanksgiving break is the perfect time to expand your hook up pool. And, with Thanksgiving break just hours away, here are a few quick tips for rekindling those high school flames:
1. Set yourself up for success
2. Respect new relationships
3. Avoid day time dates
4. Be mature
5. Don't have unrealistic expectations
It is important to remember, though,that while some old crushes may return hotter than ever, others may have let themselves go. That being said, Thanksgiving is also an opportunity to remind failed flames that you were a great catch. Stay confident, look sexy, and do it for the story.
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
SEX TOY WARNING!!!
Interestingly in one of my classes today we had a speaker from NPR come in and talk about her work. The biggest story that she shared with us one that she did about the safety of sex toys. The story goes something kind of like this:
A woman was really excited to open a sex toy shop but when she got her first shipment of dildos in, they open the box to see that the packages had a type of greasy/oil stain on them, which was also on the foam packing peanuts and also on the shipping box. What is this she wondered? Looking into this more she found out that it is a “thalloid” type substance, which is from the cheap manufacturing of a soft PVC material which was used in the manufacturing of these cheap sex toys.
Doing some more research into this area, it was found that sex toys are not regulated by any government; ours, or the Chinese government where most of them are manufactured. This can be dangerous, because this thalloid substance contains known carcinogens that can be dangerous to your health and cause birth defects.
Since sex is still a pretty taboo subject to talk about (to some people, not us of course!) I don’t see any government regulating sex toys soon. This also creates a lot of health complications because people will develop rashes or problems from using these cheap sex toys and go to their doctor who will wrongfully diagnose them as an STD, which will not cure these problems.
We love sex toys here on Turned On and don’t want you to stop using them, but just make sure you check the products first, and spend that extra money to get a quality one, because these problems mainly plague cheaper ones that use chemicals to soften the plastic, and mostly in “jelly” type toys (super squishy ones).
To hear the actual story by Kyle Norris, check out her website at www.kylenorris.com
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Word of the Week
Remember when “talking” became the hott word in the hookup and dating community? Teens and young adults alike began using the term in an attempt to define relationships that were more than just sexually based (i.e. friends with benefits) but less than an exclusive and committed relationship. Couples that were “talking” were essentially on their way to relationship status.
Well, yet again it seems that a new word has infiltrated the dating scene. “To slam,” used as a verb, is now being used in place of “to hook up.” For example, one might say, “It’s been so long since I’ve slammed sober.” “I’m not going home tonight until I slam.”
We don’t want to leave you guys out of the loop. Stay on top of your game and slam safely.
Well, yet again it seems that a new word has infiltrated the dating scene. “To slam,” used as a verb, is now being used in place of “to hook up.” For example, one might say, “It’s been so long since I’ve slammed sober.” “I’m not going home tonight until I slam.”
We don’t want to leave you guys out of the loop. Stay on top of your game and slam safely.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
International Relations
How good are you in bed??
Well, according to a poll conducted across the world, where you are from has a lot to do with it. The countries with the best men are:
1. Spain
2. Brazil
3. Italy
4. France
5. Ireland
6. South Africa
7. Australia
8. New Zealand
9. Denmark
10. Canada
Americans did not fare to well in the poll however. They came in as the 5th worst for being too rough with the ladies. However, nothing can be as bad as number 1, the Germans who rated as “too smelly.” Two and three could probably take some tips from each other with number 2 being the English who are too lazy and number 3 being the Swedish who are too quick. Our big friends in Holland are too dominating, and all the romantics in Greece are too lovey-dovey. There were people from Wales who were just too large… I’m kidding, but they were number 7 with the men being too selfish. The rowdy Scots to our left were rated as too loud, well the Turks were number 9 with being too sweaty. Finally, the number 10 worst lovers were the Russians who apparently have bad cases of HOB (Hair on back).
So next time you think you are good in bed, check what our friends across the pond are doing and make sure that you don’t improvement in these areas as well!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Halloween!
It's that time of year where it's getting chilly out and the leaves are falling... and we get to dress up and go out for Halloween!!!
But what is an appropriate costume to wear? Something scandalous, something scary, or sexy?
I am a big fan of the less-is-more costume approach. This can be fun or sexy depending on how you approach it. For example, girls can wear lingerie to become any type of animal, an angel, or devil or can go with the bikini and be some type of surfer girl or beauty pageant contestant. For guys, they this can be short shorts and being from the 80s or some type of pro athlete, or painting their bodies and being a superhero.
What about being scandalous?? Well these can be even more fun. Ladies, get out the skin tight, cleavage showing pleather outfits and become the catwoman for your batman or Sandy for your Danny. Undercover spies or sexy nurses also make for more coverage but equal sex appeal. What about guys? It is harder to be 'scandalous' as a guy but the one thing I would say is don't pull a Prince Harry and dress as a Nazi, always keep some class.
And down right sexy. Well, any of the aforementioned costumes are sexy, but nothing is sexier than seeing a group or couple in hot duds. Talk to you current fling and plan costumes together one night. A sexy doctor and nurse duo may translate to some fun role-playing in the bedroom later. ;)
Just remember, be safe, have fun and stay sexy! :)
But what is an appropriate costume to wear? Something scandalous, something scary, or sexy?
I am a big fan of the less-is-more costume approach. This can be fun or sexy depending on how you approach it. For example, girls can wear lingerie to become any type of animal, an angel, or devil or can go with the bikini and be some type of surfer girl or beauty pageant contestant. For guys, they this can be short shorts and being from the 80s or some type of pro athlete, or painting their bodies and being a superhero.
What about being scandalous?? Well these can be even more fun. Ladies, get out the skin tight, cleavage showing pleather outfits and become the catwoman for your batman or Sandy for your Danny. Undercover spies or sexy nurses also make for more coverage but equal sex appeal. What about guys? It is harder to be 'scandalous' as a guy but the one thing I would say is don't pull a Prince Harry and dress as a Nazi, always keep some class.
And down right sexy. Well, any of the aforementioned costumes are sexy, but nothing is sexier than seeing a group or couple in hot duds. Talk to you current fling and plan costumes together one night. A sexy doctor and nurse duo may translate to some fun role-playing in the bedroom later. ;)
Just remember, be safe, have fun and stay sexy! :)
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
The H Words
Hetero- and Homo- sexual. Where did these words come from? People have always had same and opposite sex relationships and sexual relations but have there always been heterosexuals? The short answer is no, in fact there haven't.
The word heteosexual was actually first used on March 7, 1892 by Dr. James G. Kiernan of Chicago. In his context, heterosexuals were defined by a mental condition, "physical hermaphroditism" where people had a inclination to both sexes. These heterodox sexuals betrayed inclinations to abnormal methods of gratification, which was pleasuring themselves without procreation (aka having sex just to do it). He also used the word homosexual whose general mental state is that of the opposite sex, so homosexuals were defined by their deviance from a gender norm - they displayed a double deviance from both gender and procreative norms.
Later that year Dr. Krafft-Ebing book Psychopathia Sexualis was translated into english where he used hereo-sexual in the modern sense, referring to an erotic feeling for a different sex. He also used "homo-sexual" referred unambiguously to an erotic feeling for a "same sex." Only gradually did doctors agree that heterosexual referred to a notmal, "other-sex" sexual desire. This idea of heterosexuality as the master sex from which all others deviated was deeply authoritarian.
So why do I bring this up? Well first, as we can see, the words hetero and homo sexual were created very recently. It wasn't until just over 100 years ago that these words came to be. So why do we put so much emphasis on the meaning of these two words. The hetero/homo divide was not nature's doing was it? We invent these categories to classify objects and force facts into separate categories.
Some of you have probably heard of Caster Semenya - the female runner from S. Africa that had to undergo gender testing because of her super fast times. Tests are still pending exact results but it has been found that she does have testes inside of her body. So is she a male? Is she a female?
It is a good example of how things do not need to be classified into discreet categories.
So think the next time you say something is so gay or so straight - is it really?? Or is it inbetween?
Stay Sexy Michigan
The word heteosexual was actually first used on March 7, 1892 by Dr. James G. Kiernan of Chicago. In his context, heterosexuals were defined by a mental condition, "physical hermaphroditism" where people had a inclination to both sexes. These heterodox sexuals betrayed inclinations to abnormal methods of gratification, which was pleasuring themselves without procreation (aka having sex just to do it). He also used the word homosexual whose general mental state is that of the opposite sex, so homosexuals were defined by their deviance from a gender norm - they displayed a double deviance from both gender and procreative norms.
Later that year Dr. Krafft-Ebing book Psychopathia Sexualis was translated into english where he used hereo-sexual in the modern sense, referring to an erotic feeling for a different sex. He also used "homo-sexual" referred unambiguously to an erotic feeling for a "same sex." Only gradually did doctors agree that heterosexual referred to a notmal, "other-sex" sexual desire. This idea of heterosexuality as the master sex from which all others deviated was deeply authoritarian.
So why do I bring this up? Well first, as we can see, the words hetero and homo sexual were created very recently. It wasn't until just over 100 years ago that these words came to be. So why do we put so much emphasis on the meaning of these two words. The hetero/homo divide was not nature's doing was it? We invent these categories to classify objects and force facts into separate categories.
Some of you have probably heard of Caster Semenya - the female runner from S. Africa that had to undergo gender testing because of her super fast times. Tests are still pending exact results but it has been found that she does have testes inside of her body. So is she a male? Is she a female?
It is a good example of how things do not need to be classified into discreet categories.
So think the next time you say something is so gay or so straight - is it really?? Or is it inbetween?
Stay Sexy Michigan
Sunday, April 19, 2009
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